What is sensuality? Is it nudity? Attitude? Clothing? For me, it’s probably a combination of a lot of things that I can’t really put my finger on. It’s so subtle that it seeps into your soul. When you look at it, you think “Gosh that’s sexy!” and you don’t really know why. Other times it hits you square in the face.
As a boudoir photographer, I try to find what’s sensual about each person. Certainly this is an intimate art where people allow themselves to be most vulnerable. It makes it that much more important to get it right. With the right touches, you can really boost a person’s self-esteem. Do the wrong thing, however, and you can break a person’s spirit.
Sensuality to me isn’t necessarily about lingerie or mood, although that certainly helps in this industry. Rather, it’s a person who accepts who they are both physically and emotionally and isn’t afraid to own it in front of the whole world. Take Will Ferrell for a moment, yes I’m serious. The guy has what I would call the “average” male body type for his (my??) age group. He’s got a bit of a paunch, a slight double chin, and very little muscle tone…….and he doesn’t care one bit. He’ll strip down to a man-thong or completely nude and run down a street. But he owns all of it and makes women laugh.
On the flip side, take Helen Mirren. She’s 71 years old and I’ve heard men as young as 30 say they found her sexy. I believe it’s because she owns her sensuality and it shows. As my friend Jen Rozenbaum would say, she’s “shamelessly feminine.” To me, sensuality like so many other things comes from within. It comes from loving who you are and not being afraid to show it.